Li Lian

Today is Thursday June 20, 2019
  • Negotiation Skills

    Me: Are you coming to the dentist with me? I’m petrified!
    V: Nope. It’s not going to hurt.
    Me: Well, if you won’t come to the dentist with me, can we go to The Pavillion? Shopping!
    V: Nope. Too dusty and crowded.
    Me: Well, if you don’t go to the dentist with me, and we are not going to go to The Pavillion, then I’m going to make you talk about your feeeeee-lings!!!
    V rolls his eyes, and walks off.

    My negotation skills, or lack of.

  • The Pursuit of Happiness

    Can money buy happiness?

    “Money is the root of all evil”. “If you don’t think money is important, then you’re a liar”. “Whoever said money can’t buy happiness isn’t spending it right”. “Money may not solve all your problems, but it’ll sure help”. Are just some of the responses.

    NBabe and I were chatting about things we’d like to do. Seriously? I think if anybody wants to do anything, moo-lah* is required!

    Someone she knew had invested thousands in to looking good. There was the new hair-do, the slimming centre, many facials, new wardrobe after the weight loss. And it was all worth it! I totally agree with that. If looking good equals feeling good, better self-confidence, self-esteem, then why the hell not? As you may have read from earlier posts, there are some essentials that are necessary to look remotely presentable. (You can read it here.) NBabe futher pointed out that rich people are not ugly. How true. Money can buy you new boobs, a tummy tuck, a face lift, hair extensions, a new nose, a sexy rear-end.**

    If you want to take up a new hobby, that will cost you money too. Say, if your new found passion was cycling, diving, arts and craft, painting, sewing, jewellery making. Unless you have excess money, you can’t really start a new hobby over night. Now, where is the happiness here?

    Of course, there is also retail therapy! So therapeutic. THIS! requires a lot of money. I would like a new handbag, and a new phone, and a SEXY SONY VAIO. My purchases would make me delirious with joy! But this joy is momentary, perhaps?***

    So, do we over-estimate the pleasures and happiness we’re going to get when we have more money? Sure, money can make you happy, but will more money make you more happy when you’re reached a subsistence level? Then again, what is enough?

    Or have we perhaps muddled up the difference between long lasting joy and a short lived thrill?

    Things that money cannot buy – good health, an interesting job that you love, spirituality, time, true friendship, love****.

    And to find out how money can buy happiness, there are SPECIFICALLY 7 WAYS to buy happiness, go here!


    * This is what me and my sister call money.
    * With all that money, I wonder why Donald Trump didn’t buy better hair.
    *** Perhaps I should buy a new handbag or a new gadget to see if it will thrill and brings me joy that will last beyond that moment.
    ****Yeah, yeah, yeah – some of you out there are going to tell me that money can buy love – but I am a romantic, and I choose not to believe so.

  • Things I’m In Love* With – Compiled in 3 Days

    These are inanimate THINGS!, objects and do not include people and cute puppies or sheep.

    In no particular order:

    1. The Sony VAIO TZ 11.1″ Super Slim Notebook. Not only is it super slim. It’s also SUPER! sexy. I want one! And it’s light too. No more heavy weight lifting.

    2. Starbucks at MidValley Mega Mall. I’m now no longer torn between Starbucks or Coffee Bean**. Despite Starbucks being a little bit more pricey***. I went for my usual Cafe Mocha to go this morning because I arrived at work early. The team at Starbucks was already chirpy and most welcoming, greeting me good morning. So polite! 5 seconds after I’d been given my beverage, and walking off, suddenly two of them came running after me. One to tell me they forgot to put the espresso shot in my cafe mocha, and to rush it back to get me a new one, while the other waited with me. They shouldn’t have made such a silly mistake to begin with, but it was so nice to know they wanted to rectify things.

    3. AFC on Astro (Channel 703) – The Asian Food Channel is SO! addictive! Over the weekend, there was a Truffle Fair, Gordon Ramsay and so many step-by-step cooking programmes. And I don’t even particularly cook very well.

    4. Liquid hand soap dispenser. Who doesn’t need one?

    5. Facebook****. I’ve found so many friends from school. Friends I haven’t seen in 15 years or more. And you get to adopt a pet, feed your pet, your friends’ pets. Then you get to send gifts, flowers, fish, cakes, ice-cream. The list is just endless! And so addictive! There goes my social life, or what’s left of it.

    6. Nicole Kidman’s hair. So versatile for the hair-up elegant do and the hair-down sexy sultry look, so many styles, so perfect.

    * These are things that I THINK I am in love with.
    ** Coffee Bean Team at MidValley is surly and half awake, and did not greet me good morning the last time I was there. The nerve!
    *** Did you know there is a book entitled – How Starbucks Saved My Life?
    **** Facebook Facts – It was started by a 19 year old, 4 years ago. He’s 23 now. Microsoft values it at 10 billion dollars, Yahoo! wanted to buy it for 1 billion dollars a year ago, but their offer was declined. Cool or what?!

  • Packrat

    I am such a packrat!

    I have magazines dating back to January 2003! But I can’t bring myself to throw them away! I kept them because some of them have really good articles. I read in some Home and Living magazine that we can just tear out the articles we like, file them, and throw the rest of it away. Ok, I guess I am not THAT! organised.

    They have used up my shelf space, and I have nice storage boxes from Ikea. But that’s filled to the brim too. I am planning to go shopping for storage baskets now to store my magazines.

    But really, do I need to? I haven’t touched or re-read any of my old magazines, so I don’t suppose I will be doing so in the near future.

    And I still cant bring myself to throw them away. They must surely be a fire hazard.

    And NO! I am not going to scan my magazines, and archive them as soft copies.

  • Live to Eat, Eat to Live?

    Some of us eat for fuel, only when we are hungry. In some cases, even before we’re hungry, just to shut the stomach up before it starts growling.*

    And some of us are just foodies – wanting to try everything (so many choices so little time and so many more choices!), going out of the way, travelling miles and crossing oceans for ‘said’ good food.

    And some of us commit one of the 7 deadly sins – gluttony, by binge eating.

    Half the world’s population is being killed in record numbers from too much food. The other half is dying from lack of food. What is this fascination with food that we have that we read about it, people write about it endlessly, we watch it on telly, and Pixar made a movie** out of it!

    Does eating to live mean we eat healthfully, become vegetarians, and only eat as much as the energy we require to continue living? This would mean I will only be allowed 3 apples a day since I am sat on my ass at the office all day, and consider I have exercised because I walk to my car. Does this mean I have to forgo all delicious food? By delicious, my definitions include greasy, deep-fried, fattening, unhealthy foods- I love my steaks and lamb chops fatty, I dream of ‘siew-yoke’ (crispy pork), I crave Italian (extra creamy pastas and pizzas with 10 types of EXTRA! cheese), I could eat ‘nasi lemak’ everyday, and I love soups with almost every meal!

    And sometimes, I go the other extreme by starving myself.

    Oops! I got carried away with my perfect-sometimes unhealthy-OCD relationship with food there.

    In conclusion, my conclusion at least, living to eat or eating to live is like the chicken or egg first question.

    * Statement made and copyrighted by Jax.
    ** This Pixar movie is that rat cartoon – Ratatouille. I’ve seen it, and I love it.